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Welcome to the November 21, 2002 issue of LocateACoach.com's Focused Lives Update "Experts & info to bring your life, career, family, home, health & spirituality into focus" A full HTML version can be found here: http://www.LocateACoach.com/ezine/ INSIDE THIS ISSUE: - Welcome Our New Coaches! - Check Out These New Articles - Upcoming Teleclasses & Chats - Feature Article: Don't Tell Me You Meant To - Special Offers Donald
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contains an idea that may make you uncomfortable!!! :--)
The other day I met a woman who had registered for my Living Richly™
program. She smiled and said,
"I meant to call you. I wanted to tell you why I wasn't at the
seminar." At that moment, it hit me. Telling me you meant to do
something is like telling me how unimportant that item was on your list!
It simply never made it to the top. It was never worth the action step.
Oh, perhaps, I was not worth your making the time for that action step.
Is that the message you wanted me to have?
Have you ever had the experience of calling someone in business who
responds by saying, 'I meant to call you."? Whatever good is that?
Who cares what that person 'meant' to do, the only thing that matters is
what they DID do. It is impossible to respond to what someone meant to
do, isn't it?
This is so common. We let ourselves off the hook by using that
phrase, 'I meant to'. Truly, when someone says that to me, I now say,
"No, you didn't mean to. If you had, it would have been
done." Does that sound harsh? Or, just honest?
Yes, intention is a good beginning. It declares our determination to
act in a particular way. Great start on the journey to success. We've
all heard, though, that it can be a hellacious road.
One good thing about intention: it makes great conversation. Listen
to a group of friends or colleagues chatting about how they will improve
their lives.
"I'm giving up fried foods." 'I'm going to treat my
wife/husband better and spend more time with her/him." "I am
going to take a few days off and not do one thing." "I'm not
answering emails on the weekends." "I'm going to have quiet
time just for myself at least three days a week." "I'm joining
a gym."
If you ask these folks for a progress report on their intentions a
month from now, what do you think will be the answer from the majority
of them?
"I meant to." Followed by a string of excuses why life
intervened.
It's an epidemic. And, we collude with it. It goes like this: You
tell me that you meant to call me but you got too busy and I tell you
that I know how that goes. Next time, I can count on you to let me off
the hook over something I intended to do but did not accomplish. Now, we
both sound great--well-intended, conscious, thoughtful--and nothing got
done. That's collusion!
OK, it may sound a bit harsh. But, isn't it true?
Would you rather have your friend say, "Sorry that I did not
call you this week." or "I meant to call you this week."?
The first is an apology that shows ownership of the behavior. The second
is an attempt to wiggle off a hook in order to avoid conflict and garner
approval. Mature adults say the first. Other people, the latter. What do
you say?
(C) Rhoberta Shaler, PhD All rights reserved worldwide.
Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, speaks, coaches & conducts seminars for
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and inspiration to achieve, to lead and to live richly. For further
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